The Silent Pain


We all go about our daily lives, walking or driving past many smiling faces, also going about their daily lives. We sit next to people on the bus or train, texting on their phones, listening to music, reading a book or just watching the world pass by outside the window as they make their way to work, school, college, or wherever their journey takes them. We see our friends, family and work colleagues on a daily basis. Laughing, joking and acting as they usually do, being the people that we know them to be.

What we don’t see is the silent pain.

1 in 4 people living in the UK will experience a mental health problem in any given year. This number is pretty high when you consider every 4th person you see on a daily basis potentially has a mental health problem, or will have at some point during their life.

The video below, produced by the The Saleem Foundation, highlights what it is like to live with mental health problems in silence, and how easily it is to not notice someone who is experiencing the silent pain. 

Suicide remains as the largest killer of young men under the age of 50. Three quarters of all suicides registered in 2017 were men, this has been the case since the mid 1990’s. 

Three million people in the uk are diagnosed with depression, which exceeds the amount of people living in Wales. Women are twice as likely as men to develop depression. More than half of all individuals completing suicide suffer from major depressive disorders. 

We recently posted an article about a family and a group of friends, who in the space of a year lost three of their loved ones to suicide. The group decided to come together and raise awareness for suicide by taking part in the Birmingham Half Marathon, raising an amazing £18,255,50 for Mind. The money raised will be used to provide much-needed help and support to the people who need it the most. It will also go towards helping with Mind’s efforts to raise awareness of suicide and inform people that there is help out there, and that they are not alone.

A discussion about mental health

Don’t suffer in silence – There is help and support out there for you

Are you or someone you know struggling with their mental health or having suicidal thoughts? Please know that you are not alone and that there is help and support out there for you.

If you are going through a difficult time at the moment and you are experiencing suicidal thoughts, please speak to your GP as soon as possible. Your GP will be able to prescribe you medication to help you and refer you over to the NHS for more support.

There are also several helpines you can call to speak to someone who is there to listen to you in an understanding and non-judgmental way. All call operators are fully trained members of staff and volunteers who have an understanding of mental health from their own experiences.

If you have already harmed yourself, or are in a crisis where you intend to, please do not hesitate, call 999 and ask for an ambulance. If it is safe to do so, go along to the A&E deartment of your nearest hospital.

If you haven’t already harmed yourself and you just need someone to speak to, you can call one of the numbers below:

NHS 111 Service: 111
Samaritans: 116 123
Papyrus (teens and young adults): 0800 0684141
Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) for men: 0800 585858
Childline (young people and children): 0800 1111

As well as support for suicidal feelings, there is also support for your mental health in general. The first point of call when experiencing mental health problems should always be your GP. If you are experiencing mental health problems for the first time, it is important to get the right diagnosis so that you can get the best support for you.

If you have been experiencing mental health problems for a while and know what your diagnosis is, you will be able to discuss with your GP what the best type of treatment would be and if any NHS services would be of help to you.

Apart from your GP, there are local mental health charities such as Dudley Mind who have a number of services that can help you with your mental health problems. For a list of our services you can download a copy of our general leaflet here.

You can also download our Useful list of local and national mental health services leaflet for other local and national services that may be of help to you.

You can get in touch with us by calling 01384 442938 or by sending us an email at